In the words of Jerry Seinfeld, “Everyone is the same when they die. But many people become the same as everyone else much earlier. Why ‘die’ earlier than you have to?”
People who have too busy following everyone else, the latest trends, doing things because that is the way everyone else is doing it, afraid to be different.
Never followed the herd. Seinfeld, for example, kept his comedy clean when nobody else was. He created a show about nothing when every other show was about something. And he went out at the top, refusing an offer by NBC of $100,000,000 million dollars for just one more season.
“I’m going to enjoy every second, and I’m going to know I’m enjoying it while I’m enjoying it. Most people don’t live; they just race. They are trying to reach some goal far away on the horizon, and in the heat of the going they get so breathless and panting that they lose sight of the beautiful, tranquil country they are passing through; and then the first thing they know, they are old and worn out, and it doesn’t make any difference whether they’ve reached the goal or not.”
― Jean Webster
In an interview, he told Howard Stern, “The public wanted more. But, Howard, the public is NOT in show business. So you should do the OPPOSITE of what the public wants. There’s a reason they are not in show business.”
This is almost like the stock market. If everyone in the world thinks the market is going up then it means it’s probably going down soon. And vice versa.
The reality is that it’s had to do that, to be different, to follow your own path. We have needs. We have bills to pay. If everyone is doing it “this way” then maybe “this way” is the right way? Isn’t that scary?
We all and too often do things we don’t really want to do. Others, social pressure, make our decisions. Sooner or later, at least for me, I would start to feel stuck, even depressed. I had wandered off of my path and had joined the crowded path of the living dead.
Living is about choice. At every crossroad there is a choice to be made. We choose or it chooses us. Me, I now ask: which choice is better for me. Then I don’t think about. Don’t look. Don’t ask myself if only “if”. I stop thinking about it.
Follow your heart. Listen to your gut. Eventually your body will give you the answer. Sounds crazy. Until you try it. At least that’s what I do.
You are you. You are not the public. At each crossroad choose the path that sets your heart on fire. Go forward.
Don’t look back.